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Post by Ummati on Nov 19, 2011 21:39:56 GMT 5
Review:PRIVATE SUNNAH1 Perform four rak'a of prayer in the early part of the day 2 Sunnah of Eating: Eat from what’s near, picking up fallen food, no leaning, no fault-finding, washing and gargling, spreading cloth on floor, reciting bismillah aloud.3 satisfied with a little food 4 Drinking Water: Sit, bismillah, right hand, three sips, alhumdulilah, not directly from jug/bottle5 I go to sleep, like my Prophet did 6 As I go up I say Allah u Akbar, & as I come down I say Subhan Allah 7 Wudhu and three qul before Sleeping 8 Seeking repentance 9 Offering prayer at earliest time 10 Right before Left when wearing, Left before Right when removing 11 remembering death often 12 Miswak-ing 13 rub your face upon awakening 14 Qaylula 15 Voluntary fasting 16 Being steadfast 17 Zikr after Salat ul Fajr 18 Fasting in Shawwal 19 Increasing in Zikr of Allah 20 Conceal ur sins 21 Patience 22 Rinse mouth after drinking milk 23 Pick food that is dropped 24 Yawning is from shaytaan, avoid it! PUBLIC SUNNAH1 Smiling 2 When they seek your advice, advise them sincerely 3 When they sneeze and praise Allah, supplicate for mercy upon them 4 Accepting Invitations 5 Humble, associating with one and all 6 Spending on family 7 Replacement of words: jazakAllah, waiyyak, alhumdulilah, subhan Allah, masha Allah, astagfirullah, insha Allah8 Sunnahs of Speech: speaking good or keeping silent, slowly, giving pauses, no foul language 9 Sunnah of greeting and gatherings: saying salam, sit wherever place found, 2 shouldn’t talk to the exclusion of the 3rd10 Prevent Yawning as Far as Possible 11 Eating together 12 Hose off that anger 13 Shake hands when you meet each other 14 Clarity in discourse 15 Honoring the guest 16 Keeping Secrets 17 Never saying no 18 Avoiding excessive laughter 19 Getting neighbourly 20 Helping others in whatever way possible 21 Asking permission to enter 22 Respect the elderly 23 Making peace between people 24 Avoiding arguments 25 Pass to the right first 26 Having a 'sense' of humour P.S. For details, please refer to previous posts insha Allah
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Post by Mujaahid on Nov 20, 2011 18:21:46 GMT 5
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Post by Ummati on Nov 22, 2011 22:51:14 GMT 5
If the prophet did it, we can do it, and if you feel like you cant do it, try your best to do it.
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Post by Ummati on Nov 25, 2011 10:55:24 GMT 5
25.11.11 - 2.12.11Private Sunnah
In your Duas? (: Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “He who supplicates for his brother behind his back (in his absence), the angel commissioned (for carrying dua to his Lord) says: 'Ameen, and it is for you also.'” [Sahih Muslim]So the advantage of praying for the eeman, safety, health, prosperity, or any good, for another Muslim, is that we have an angel make the same dua for us. Why pray for someone instead of for ourselves only, why pray for a Muslim in some remote part of the world? This hadith is why. Public Sunnah
Intelligent RetaliationAisha (radi Allahu anha) narrated: “The Jews used to greet the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) by saying, ‘As-Saamu alaika (i.e., death be upon you),’ so I understood what they said, and I said to them, ‘Alaikumus-saamu wal-la’natu (i.e., death and Allah’s curse be upon you).’ The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, ‘Be gentle and calm, O Aishah, as Allah likes gentleness in all affairs.’ I said, ‘O Allah’s Prophet! Didn’t you hear what they said?’ He said, ‘Didn’t you hear me answering them back by saying, ‘Alaikum (i.e., the same be upon you)?’” [Sahih Bukhari]Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) was aware of what was being said to him. And he retaliated; but intelligently - without causing a big stir. Without using the bad words the Jews used for him, he returned their evil wishes on them. Thus, he set an example of the tone and manner in which a Muslim responds to provocation. Think of how reactive we are. We immediately jump at the throat of whoever hurts us. Our voices are raised, our tone becomes harsh. Our reproach is not characterized by calmness or gentleness, although it is possible to retaliate in a mild manner as well. Retaliating while forcing oneself to remain in a calm state ensures that we do not transgress the limits of revenge and become sinful ourselves by overstepping the bounds of the lawful. He who uses foul language should think of himself as a Munafiq (hypocrite) as the use of coarse and evil language, while in a disagreement, is a particular characteristic of the hypocrites. To be a hypocrite is worse than to be a Kafir. Courtesy of: dailyhadith.adaptivesolutionsinc.com/
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Post by Ummati on Dec 1, 2011 11:37:28 GMT 5
Subhan Allah
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Post by Ummati on Dec 2, 2011 13:49:33 GMT 5
2.12.11 - 9.12.11
Private Sunnah
Sweat it out!
Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “The Momin dies with his sweat on his brow.” [An-Nasai]
To have sweat on one’s brow indicates labour and hard work. This means that a momin dies working. Our concepts have gotten messed up. We think that the place of recompense is this world; that once you reach a certain age you should be living in luxury, if not all your life. But where in the Quran does Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) say that a luxurious life (eeshatin raadhia) is supposed to happen anytime on earth? All of Allah’s promises of never-ending ease, of comfort to your heart’s content, unblemished happiness, freedom and plenitude, are regarding Jannah. This life is our qualifying exam to get there. As a sensible person in the middle of an exam does not say, “I’m tired of writing,” and retire from the exam, Muslims also need to realize that death is the only time of retirement for him/her.
Some girls think that the place where all their wishes should come true is their husbands’ home. Nowhere does Allah or His Messenger state this to be the case. When you get married you simply move from one exam room to another. There is an increase in the number of questions you now have to answer correctly to successfully pass the exam of life. First you had to correctly deal with your parents, siblings and other relatives. Now there is an increment in your responsibilities and you also have to correctly deal with your husband, children, in-laws, etc. The place where all your wishes will come true is only and only Jannah. It is not possible that this should happen in the temporary life of this worldly.
Hard work is considered to be one of the most important traits of Muslim men and women alike. Never shy away from work. It is your key to Jannah. If a man works to earn for his family and his wife takes care of the children and other household chores, this does not mean that either person’s work is more important or valuable than the other’s. You are both just managing different areas to efficiently run your home. Both of you contribute to this partnership, as the two wheels of a bike, so make sure that no one is treated less in any way.
Public Sunnah
Muffle the sound
Abu Hurairah (radi Allahu anhu) narrated that when the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) would sneeze, he would cover his face with his hand or with his garment, and muffle the sound with it. (Hasan) [The Chapters on Manners: Jami at-Tirmidhi]
The good habit and example of the Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) teaches that a person should keep the sound minimal and suppressed whilst sneezing, particularly when he/she is in a gathering. They should cover their face with a hand or a cloth, not only to muffle the sound but also to avoid spraying other people.
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Post by Ummati on Dec 13, 2011 17:45:53 GMT 5
9.12.11 - 23.12.11
Private Sunnah
Close off that stereo!
The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Bells are the musical instruments of the Shaytaan.” [Sahih Muslim]
Hence, he (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said that the angels “do not accompany any people with whom there is a dog or a bell.” [Sahih Muslim]
Music is one of the means by which the Shaytaan corrupts people’s hearts and destroys their souls. Ibn Al-Qayyim said: “Among the plots and traps of the enemy of Allah, with which he seeks to ensnare those whose share of knowledge, reasoning and religious commitment is minimal and trap the ignorant and the followers of falsehood is listening to whistling and clapping of hands [Quran 8:35], and singing accompanied by forbidden musical instruments, which closes people’s hearts to the Quran and makes them devoted to immorality and sin. This is the “quran” of the Shaytaan, an impenetrable barrier which blocks them from the Most Merciful. This is the means that leads to homosexuality and fornication, by means of which the Shaytaan ensnares the hearts of those who follow falsehood and makes it appear attractive to them by way of deceit and trickery. He inspires them by means of specious arguments to regard it as something good, so they accept this idea and for the sake of singing they forsake the Quran…” [Ighaathat al-Lahfaan]
Public Sunnah
No Backgammon!
The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Whoever plays backgammon, it is as if he dipped his hand in the flesh and blood of a pig.” [Sunan Ibn Majah]
Backgammon is one of the oldest board games for two players involving a dice. Luck factors into the outcome. It may be played for money and is then a form of gambling.
Pigs are impure animals, and as much as a Muslim would not like to immerse his/her hands in the flesh and blood of a pig, he/she should hate any game that involves gambling.
Another reason for the prohibition of such games is that people waste their time by engaging in them and do not care about even as essential things as their prayers. Being involved in any activity to the extent that it affects one’s remembering Allah, and the rights of others that He has ordered us to fulfill, is forbidden. In light of this, ask the Mufti in your heart what the ruling on T.V. and movies should be.
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Post by Ummati on Dec 24, 2011 19:02:06 GMT 5
23.12.11 - 30.12.11
Public Sunnah
Respect for Children
Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Give due respect and regard to your children and decorate them with the best of manners.” [Abu Daud]
Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wasallam) would be the first to give salaam to children as he would pass them, thereby teaching them Islamic manners with his own example. He (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) would have sweets and dates for them.
Once the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) was giving one of his grandsons a ride when somebody remarked, “What an excellent ride you have!” to his grandson. Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) immediately drew attention to the child instead by saying, “Don’t you see what an excellent rider I have!”
This was the nature of Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam), that he would give love and importance to children.
Private Sunnah
Lets Learn an Ayah! The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “O Abu Dharr! If you learn one verse from The Book of Allah (The Quran), it is better for you than to voluntarily pray one hundred rakahs; and if you learn a category of knowledge (religion), regardless if it is applied or not, it is better for you than to voluntarily pray one thousand rakahs.” [Sunan Ibn Majah]
The reason that acquiring religious knowledge has so much superiority over praying nafl rakahs is because of the potential of much greater benefit to oneself and society as a result of knowledge of the Deen. The rules Allah (subhana wa ta'ala) has set out for mankind are for our worldly benefit, as well as for earning everlasting happiness and perfection that can only be enjoyed in the Akhirah. Even if a person does not initially translate their knowledge of right and wrong into action, the possibility exists that they may do so. On the other hand, without guidance one wanders around blindly.
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Post by Ummati on Jan 1, 2012 22:25:06 GMT 5
Private Sunnah
Bedtime - Surah al Kafirun
The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, "Recite surah al Kafirun and then go to sleep after coming to its end, for it is a clearance from shirk." [Abu Dawud]
Make a habit of reciting this short surah at bed time. Should you die in your sleep, your last words will be a denial of shirk. The reward for reciting this surah is enormous. The reward for its recitation is equivalent to the reward for reciting a quarter of the Quran. [Tirmidhi]
There was a time in Makkah when although a storm of opposition had arisen in the pagan society of Quraish against the message of Islam, yet the leaders of the Kuffar had not lost hope that they could reach some sort of a compromise with Muhammad (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam). Therefore, they would visit him with different proposals of compromise so that he accept one of them and the dispute between them be brought to an end.
According to Abdullah bin Abbas (radi Allahu anhu), the Quraish proposed to the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam): "We shall give you so much wealth that you will become the richest man of Makkah. We shall give you whichever woman you like in marriage. We are prepared to follow and obey you as our leader, only on the condition that you will not speak ill of our gods. If you do not agree to this, we present another proposal which is to your as well as to our advantage." This last proposal was that if he (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) would worship their gods, Lat and Uzza, for a year, they would worship his God for the same space of time. The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) replied: "Wait awhile; let me see what my Lord commands in this regard." Thereupon Surah Kafirun was revealed.
The Quraish had proposed such things to the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) not once, but at different times and on different occasions; and there was need that they should be given a definite, decisive reply so that their hope of mixing Kufr and Islam on the principle of "give and take" be frustrated for ever.
If this Surah is read with this background in mind, one finds that it was revealed to exonerate the Muslims from the religions of the disbelievers, their rites of worship, their gods, to express total disgust and unconcern with them and to tell them that Islam and Kufr have nothing in common and there is no possibility of their being combined and mixed into one entity.
Although this surah was addressed to the disbelieving Quraish in response to their proposals of compromise, yet it is not confined to them, but having made it a part of the Quran, Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) gave the Muslims the eternal teaching that they should exonerate themselves by word and deed from the creed of Kufr wherever and in whatever form it be, and should declare without any reservation that they cannot make any compromise with the disbelievers in the matter of Islam. That is why this Surah continued to be recited when the people to whom it was addressed as a rejoinder had died and been forgotten. [Tafhim al-Quran, Sayyid Abul Ala Maududi]
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Post by Ummati on Jan 1, 2012 22:28:30 GMT 5
Public Sunnah
Hey, pal!
Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “A man follows his friend’s religion. So each of you should consider whom he makes his friend.” [Mishkat Al-Masabih]
There is a principle according to which you are said to become like the people with whom you associate. Be amiable with all but very careful about whom you befriend. Slowly and gradually the way you talk, what you talk about, the way you dress, the way you behave, what you eat, how you spend your time, all end up becoming like that of the company you keep.
If you befriend somebody who doesn’t pray regularly, eventually you will start missing prayers too. If your friends like to eat out at expensive restaurants you will start spending more money eating out too. If your friends mock bearded Muslims or women in Hijab you will end up participating in their sins.
On the Day of Judgement you will be raised with those whom you loved. May it never happen that we are grouped with those people who are to be thrown into the Fire.
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Post by Ummati on Jan 6, 2012 13:19:25 GMT 5
6.01.2012 - 13.01.2012
Private Sunnah
Stir Your Sugar.. Concentrate in your salah
The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Offer prayer with the firm conviction of Allah’s favour. Allah does not accept a prayer sent forth by an inattentive heart.” [Tirmidhi]
The prayer of a person whose thoughts aren’t focused on Allah and who is only mumbling half-heartedly, on a whim, without anticipating the favour of Allah, is in vain.
It is as though you put sugar in your cup of tea, but not really believing in its sweetness you didn’t stir it. Till you stir it, it won’t sweeten your tea. So also, conviction in Allah’s powers and favours is what must permeate you in order for your asking Allah to be effective.
Public Sunnah
Lowering One's Gaze
Narrated Abdullah ibn Abbas (radi Allahu anhu): "Al-Fadl bin Abbas rode behind Allah's Messenger (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) as his companion rider on the back portion of his she-camel on the day of Nahr (slaughtering of sacrifice, 10th Dhul-Hijja) and Al-Fadl was a handsome man. The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) stopped to give the people verdicts (regarding their matters). In the meantime, a beautiful woman from the tribe of Khatham came, asking the verdict of Allah's Messenger. Al-Fadl started looking at her as her beauty attracted him. The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) looked behind while Al-Fadl was looking at her; so the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) held out his hand backwards and caught the chin of Al-Fadl and turned his face (to the other side) in order that he should not gaze at her. She said, 'O Allah's Messenger! The obligation of performing Hajj enjoined by Allah on his worshippers has become due (compulsory) on my father who is an old man and who cannot sit firmly on the riding animal. Will it be sufficient that I perform Hajj on his behalf?' He said, 'Yes.'" [Sahih Bukhari]
This hadith gives several important rulings. One is that the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) acted himself, and made other men act, on Allah's orders to lower their gazes. [Quran 24: 27-29] We see in this hadith, that the Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) listened to the woman's question and answered it while not looking at her. He also turned the face of his cousin to the side who had been staring at the woman's beautiful face.
A side note- look at the wonderful way of teaching of the Prophet sallalahu alayhi wassalam. He didn't scold, or reprimand angrily- but with love, without saying a word, he gently turned his cousin's face away.
Lowering our gazes is a Mujaahida- and like for anything, greater the mujaahida (struggle)- greater the reward insha Allah. Bad nazri (not lowering the gaze) is a very destructive weapon, it wreaks havoc in not only families, but also within a person, their spirituality and the lazzat (fervor) of their Ibaadah.
So don't think "What's the harm in just looking?" There is harm, too much than we'd care to consider- when you walk out next time, or sit front of a screen - just remember these ayahs-
30. Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts. That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do.
31. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent... And remember, the first unintentional look is forgiven, but the second intentional one is forbidden.
~*~
Like always, a reminder to myself before to anyone else.
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Post by Ummati on Jan 13, 2012 11:35:13 GMT 5
Private Sunnah
Friday Shower
The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “The person who comes to offer prayers in the Friday congregation should bathe himself first.” [Bukhari]
Public Sunnah
Hold Tight to the Sunnah
Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wasallam) said: “Let me not find one of you, reclining on his couch, when he hears something regarding what I have commanded or forbidden saying: ‘We do not know. What we found in Allah's Book we have followed.’ [Abu Daud]
This is a good description of the casual attitude with which some Muslims, unfortunately, discard the Sunnah of our Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wasallam). Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) repeatedly links obedience of Allah to obedience of His Messenger. Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) says: “And whoever obeys the Messenger, thereby obeys Allah.” (4:80) and “Whatever the Messenger gives you, take it, and whatever he forbids you, refrain from it.” (59:7) Innumerable ayaat of the Quran itself condemn having a ‘Quran only’ approach. To divorce the Sunnah from Islam is to render Islam ineffective. For example, the Quran says to pray but without the Sunnah how would we know how to pray?
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Post by Ummati on Jan 26, 2012 21:32:03 GMT 5
20.1.12 - 03.2.12Public Sunnah
Overstaying Welcome.. Lets Not The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “It is not permissible for a guest to stay so long with the host as to cause him trouble.” [Al-Adab-ul-Mufrad] It is praiseworthy to visit people and ask about them. It promotes feelings of Islamic brotherhood and increases love. Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) likes us to show our affection for other Muslims and care for them. However, one should keep in mind that the host should not be inconvenienced. Since we now have phones, call before you visit and ask them what a suitable time would be for you to visit. This way you avoid arriving at a time inconvenient for them. They are better prepared to receive you and can give you their attention when you arrive. Don’t overstay your welcome. Stay only as long as your host would like to have you around. Don’t become a burden on them, making them and yourself sinful.
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Post by Ummati on Jan 26, 2012 21:33:29 GMT 5
Private Sunnah
Do it for Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala =)
The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Allah records good and bad deeds in this way: If anyone intends to do a good deed, but does not do it, Allah still records it with Him as one full good deed. If he intends a good deed and then carries it out, Allah records it with Him as ten to seven hundred times in reward or even increases it many times more. If anyone intends to do a bad deed but does not actually do it, Allah records it with Him as one full good deed. If he intends to do a bad deed and does it, Allah records it with Him as only one bad deed.” [Bukhari]
So easily does Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) reward us, that even intending to do a good deed earns us the full reward of having done it. This is great encouragement to think along constructive lines. Actually performing the intended good deed, gets us the reward of having done many good deeds. Intending a bad deed will not be punished, while abstaining from actually doing it, earns us the reward of a full good deed.
It is thus to be wondered how anyone can doubt the love that Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) has for His creatures! The root of mercy is love. This method of taking account of our deeds shows Allah’s extreme love for us. Suppose your son or daughter gave you $7 for safekeeping every week. Every time your child would ask you for their money back, you would return them $700 instead of $7. Provided you could afford to do this, could there be any reason for your doing this, other than your extreme love for your child? This is a little like Allah’s love for us, although His love is much deeper and vaster than what we are capable of imagining.
One of Allah's names is Shakoor, the One who appreciates. Nobody can appreciate the way Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) can, for even if the good deed or intention is like a grain in the middle of a rock, He will know of it. It is said that when you do good by a person, the average person will repay you by ten bad deeds. But when you do something for Allah (subhana wa ta’ala), no matter how small it is, Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) will know it and repay you by multiplying it into at least ten good deeds. That is why, only the person who does good for Allah's pleasure, can remain committed in doing good: While those who seek acknowledgement from people for their deeds, can not stay committed (have istiqamat) in doing good, because people cannot appreciate and repay the way that Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) appreciates and repays.
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Post by Ummati on Feb 25, 2012 11:44:09 GMT 5
3.2.12 - 2.3.12
Assalam u alaikum wrwb.
So sorry for being AWOL. Between exams and travel, hardly got time. Insha Allah, will try to be more regular now.
Sunnah Alive =), its masha Allah been almost a year since we started out here. This was, I believe, the first thread we started and my favorite even now.
Subhan Allah, our beloved Rasul Allah Sallahu alayhi wassalam was perfect in every regard. Being ummatis of such a beautiful Prophet sallalahu alayhi wassalam, is such a huge honor and blessing- no matter how much we thank Allah SWT for it, it can never be enough. He did so much for us, He was so kind, so considerate, he left so many wondrous teachings. 23 years of his life, after he received the first revelation- and subhan Allah, look at what he has achieved. Look at the Sahaba e karaam radi Allahu anhum ajmaeen- Pick any one, read about them.. what they were, what they became, what they aspired to, what they felt. And all that will leave your lips is Subhan Allah, Allah u akbar.
23 years of his life, look at the libraries that have filled with books on his life, on his character, on his teachings, on his Companions... subhan Allah, each moment of his life was so full of love, meaning, wisdom and was such a treasure, more valuable than any gem. He was so loved, he is so loved, he is the Beloved of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
Loved by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala HIMSELF, does anything more remain to be said?
Sunnah Alive
1. Recite Durood in Kasrat, Lots and Lots of Durood =)
2. Improve on our ikhlaaq, becoming beloved of the beloved
‘Among those of you who are most beloved to me are those who have the finest character.’” [Sahih Muslim]
The character of Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) was the best of all humankind and testified to by Allah (subhana wa ta’ala). Therefore, if we would like to be among the most beloved to Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam), and also most beloved to Allah (subhana wa ta’ala), we must make his character our model, as it was displayed in the masjid, in the market place, in the battle field, in his home and everywhere.
Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) has told us explicitly through the Quran and Hadith what is “good” and what is “bad”. So this is not for any individual or human rights group to determine for anyone anymore. Some of the attributes of good character are: suppressing anger that is for the sake of one’s ego, not vindicating or justifying oneself when in the wrong, hating oppressors and the immoral, being gentle and humble with believers, being honest and decent in speech.
Imam al-Bayhaqi gives a few practical examples of good character saying:
“A person with good character makes ‘what is better’ the imam of his soul, and obeys it completely,” making it the basis of his dealings with others.
“When he deals with other people, he is tolerant in claiming what is his right, and does not ask for anything which is not; but he discharges all the duties which he has towards others.
When he falls ill or returns from a trip, and no-one visits him, or when he gives a greeting which is not returned, or when he is a guest but is not honouored, or intercedes but is not responded to, or does a good turn for which he is not thanked, or joins a group of people who do not make room for him to sit, or speaks and is not listened to, or proposes to a woman but is not allowed to marry her, or asks for more time to repay a debt, but is not given more time, and all similar cases, he does not grow angry, or seek to punish people, or feel within himself that he has been snubbed, or ignored; neither does he try to retaliate with the same treatment when able to do so,
but instead tells himself that he does not mind any of these things, and responds to each one of them with something which is better, and closer to goodness and piety, and is more praiseworthy and pleasing (to Allah).” [The Seventy-Seven Branches of Faith by Imam Al-Bayhaqi, p.48-49]
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