Mom and Dad, I love you =)

[Ummati]

My Mom and Dad

The Quran Says:

And We have enjoined on the human being in (regard to) his two parents the most beautiful conduct. But if they strive with you to associate with Me (gods) you do not know about, then do not obey them. You all will return to Me and I will tell you what you have worked. - Surah al-Ankabut ayah 8

And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination.( 31:14)

The Hadith:

Narrated from:-

Anas ibn Malik: A man came to the Messenger of Allah and said: "I longed to go on jihad but I was not able to". He said: "Is either one of your parents still alive?" The man said: "My mother". He said: "Allah has instructed us in devotion to her, so if you do thus, you are as one who has made the hajj, the umrah and participated in jihad."

Abdullah ibn Amr: A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, wanting to do jihad. The Prophet asked, "Are your parents alive?" He replied, "Yes." The Prophet said, "Then exert yourself on their behalf."

Jahmah: I said to the Holy Prophet, "O Messenger of Allah, I desire to go on a (military) expedition and I have come to consult you." He asked me if I had a mother, and when I replied that I had, he said, "Stay with her because Paradise lies beneath her feet."

By grandfather of Bahz ibn Hakim and by Abu Huraira: I asked, "Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful?" He replied, "Your mother." I asked, "Then whom?" He replied, "Your mother." I asked, "Then whom?" He replied, "Your mother." I asked, "Then whom?" He replied, "Your mother." I asked, "Then to whom should I be dutiful?" He replied, "Your father,and then the next closest relative and then the next."

Abdullah bin Masud: I asked the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, which action Allah loves best. He replied, "Prayer at its proper time." I asked, "Then what?" He said, "Then beautiful conduct to parents." I asked, "Then what?" He replied, "Then jihad in the Way of Allah." He told me about these things. If I had asked him to tell me more, he would have told me more.

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"Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you show kindness to your parents. If either or both of them attain an old age, say not ‘uff’ to them, nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word. And make yourself submissively gentle to them and with compassion say ‘Oh my Lord! Have mercy on them both as they did care for me when I was little.’" – Qur’an 17:23-24

[Ummati]

Obey Them and Attain Paradise

Abu Umamah reported that a man asked: "Ya RasulAllah (O messenger of Allah!) (S.A.W) what are the rights of parents over their children?" He (S.A.W) replied: "They (your parents) are your Paradise and your Hell" (Ibn Maja)

The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, said: "Allaah's pleasure is attained by pleasing parents, and Allaah's wrath is ensued by angering parents." [At-Tirmithi]

Take Care of Them When They Become Old, For They did Care When You Were but A Child to Hold

The (beloved) Messenger of Allah(SallAllahu Alaihi Wassallam) said: "May he be humbled (loose his honour). May he be humbled. May he be humbled: It was said: Who? O Messenger of Allah(Sall Allahu Alaihi Wassallam) the one who finds parents in their old age either one of them or both of them and yet does not enter paradise" (Sahih Muslim)

Even after their death..

A man came to the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, and asked: "O Messenger of Allaah! Is there any kindness or dutifulness that I can show to my parents after their death?" He, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, replied: "Yes. To supplicate for them, seek Allaah's forgiveness for them, fulfil their will and pledges after their death, keep on good terms with those who are not connected with you but through them, and show reverence to their friends." [Ahmad]

Even if they’re not Muslims..

But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not, but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turns to Me in repentance and obedience. Then to Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do.[Quran 31:15].

Strive to Please Your Father

The Prophet (S.A.W) of Allah said: "The pleasure of the Lord is in the pleasure of the father, and the displeasure of the Lord is in the displeasure of the father" (Tirmidhi reported by Abdullah Ibn Amr).

"One's father is the middle door of the doors of Paradise. So, lose this gate or guard it." (Sunan Ibn Majah)

The Parent's Prayer

The prayers of our parents for us are also a great source of Allah's (S.W.T) blessing for us in this worldly life, as the Prophet of Allah said: "Nothing but supplication can annul predestination and nothing but obedience (kindness to them) to the parents can prolong life. A man is deprived of his provision for his sins he commits." (Ibn Maja reported by Thauban ).

[Ummati]

Love, Love, Love Your Parents


Ibn Omar reported that the (beloved) Prophet (S.A.W) said: "While three men were walking (travelling) the rain overtook them. Then they entered the cave of the mountain. While they were in the cave a huge rock of the mountain then fell down over the mouth of their cave and completely shut them in.

In this difficult time there was no other obvious material source of rescue. They said to one another "let us recall the good deeds, which we did sincerely for Allah (S.W.T). Make dua (supplication) to Allah (S.W.T)" by mentioning those good deeds as a source of acceptance that He (S.W.T) may rescue us.

So one of them mentioned one of his special deeds to Allah (S.W.T) by saying: "O Allah (S.W.T) I had old and weak parents and young children for whom I used to graze sheep. Whenever I went to them at night, I took milk and gave it first to my parents to drink before my children.

One day I could not return home till it was evening. Then I found them (parents - mum and dad) had fallen asleep. I had came to them with milk as I used to do (and did not disturb their sleep) but I remained standing near their heads in the state of not liking to begin dinner with children before them (mum and dad), while the children were crying at my feet.

This affair of theirs and mine continued till it was dawn.

If my deed as you know was for to seek your pleasure then rescues us and make for us an opening from which we see the horizon according, Allah (S.W.T) made an opening from them till they saw the horizon. The other two also remembered their good deeds by which they made dua to Allah (S.W.T) in this difficult time and Allah (S.W.T) helped them and the huge rock was removed from the opening of the cave."

(See Sahih Al-Bukhari & Sahih Al-Muslim)

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The companions of the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, and our pious predecessors, may Allaah have mercy on them, were the best examples in being kind and dutiful to their parents.

For example, Usaamah Ibn Zayd, may Allaah be pleased with him, had a piece of land cultivated with palm trees. Back then, the price of a palm tree was one thousand Deenaars (a golden currency). One day, his mother wanted to eat the core of a palm tree which is the wet part in the centre. Usaamah, may Allaah be pleased with him, cut a fruit-bearing tree to feed his mother its core. When some people asked him about what he had done, he said: "If my mother asks for anything in the whole world and I can give it to her, I will do it."

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'Ali Ibn Al-Husseyn, may Allaah have mercy upon him, was very dutiful to his mother, but he would never eat from the same dish that she was eating from.

Someone asked him: "You are one of the most dutiful people to their mothers. Why don’t you eat with her from the same dish?" He said: "I am afraid that my hand might take a certain piece of food that my mother wanted to eat, and in this way I would have been undutiful to her."

[Ummati]

Apnay Maa baap ka Dil na Dukha <3

Link:
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[Mujaahid]

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[Mujaahid]

A Letter from "Mom n Dad"...

My child,

When I get old, I hope you understand 'n have patience with me
In case I break the plate, or spill soup on the table because I’m losing my eyesight, I hope you don’t yell at me.
Older people are sensitive, always having self pity when you yell.
When my hearing gets worse 'n I can’t hear what you’re saying, I hope you don’t call me ‘Deaf!’
Please repeat what you said or write it down.

I’m sorry, my child.
I’m getting older.
When my knees get weaker, I hope you have the patience to help me get up.
Like how I used to help you while you were little, learning how to walk.
Please bear with me, when I keep repeating myself like a broken record, I hope you just keep listening to me.
Please don’t make fun of me, or get sick of listening to me.

Do you remember when you were little 'n you wanted a ballon? You repeated yourself over 'n over until you get what you wanted.
Please also pardon my smell. I smell like an old person.Please don’t force me to shower.
My body is weak.
Old people get sick easily when they’re cold. I hope I don’t gross you out.

Do you remember when you were little? I used to chase you around because you didn’t want to shower.
I hope you can be patient with me when I’m always cranky. It’s all part of getting old.
You’ll understand when you’re older.
'n if you have spare time, I hope we can talk even for a few minutes.
I’m always all by myself all the time, 'n have no one to talk to.
I know you’re busy with work.
Even if you’re not interested in my stories, please have time for me.

Do you remember when you were little? I used to listen to your stories about your teddy bear.
When the time comes, 'n I get ill 'n bedridden, I hope you have the patience to take care of me.
I’m sorry if I accidentally wet the bed or make a mess.
I hope you have the patience to take care of me during the last few moments of my life.
I’m not going to last much longer, anyway.
When the time of my death comes, I hope you hold my hand 'n give me strength to face death.

'n don’t worry..
When I finally meet our creator, I will whisper in his ear to bless you. Because you loved your Mom 'n Dad.
Thank you so much for your care.
We love you. !

[Ummati]

The Pencil And The Eraser,
courtesy www.islamicthinking.info



PENCIL
I’m sorry

ERASER
For what? You didn’t do anything wrong.

PENCIL
I’m sorry because you get hurt because of me. Whenever I made a mistake, you’re always there to erase it. But as you make my mistakes vanish, you lose a part of yourself. You get smaller and smaller each time.

ERASER
That’s true. But I don’t really mind. You see, I was made to do this. I was made to help you whenever you do something wrong. Even though one day, I know I’ll be gone and you’ll replace me with a new one, I’m actually happy with my job. So please, stop worrying. I hate seeing you sad.

I found this conversation between the pencil and the eraser very inspirational. Parents are like the eraser whereas their children are the pencil. They’re always there for their children, cleaning up their mistakes. Sometimes along the way, they get hurt, and become smaller / older, and eventually pass on. Though their children will eventually find someone new (spouse), but parents are still happy with what they do for their children, and will always hate seeing their precious ones worrying, or sad.

All my life, I’ve been the pencil. And it pains me to see the eraser that is my parents getting smaller and smaller each day. For I know that one day, all that I will be left with would be eraser shavings and memories of what I used to have.

Once a person asked the Prophet:

“Who deserves the best care from Me?”

The Prophet replied:

“Your Mother, Your Mother, Your Mother, and then your Father..”

(Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

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[Ayesha]

A long time ago , there was a huge
apple tree . A little boy loved to come
and play around it everyday. He
climbed to the treetop, ate the apples ,
took a nap under the shadow … he
loved the tree and the tree loved to
play with him. Time went by … the little
boy had grown up and he no longer
played around the tree every day .
One day , the boy came back to the
tree and he looked sad. "Come and
play with me ” the tree asked the
boy. " I am no longer a kid , I do not
play around trees any more ” the
boy replied.
“I want toys . I need money to buy
them .” “ Sorry , but I do not have
money… but you can pick all my
apples and sell them . So , you will
have money.” The boy was so
excited. He grabbed all the apples on
the tree and left happily . The boy
never came back after he picked the
apples. The tree was sad.
One day , the boy who now turned into
a man returned and the tree was
excited “ Come and play with
me” the tree said . “I do not have
time to play. I have to work for my
family. We need a house for
shelter. Can you help me?” “ Sorry ,
but I do not have any house . But
you can chop off my branches to
build your house .” So the man cut
all the branches of the tree and left
happily . The tree was glad to see him
happy but the man never came back
since then. The tree was again lonely
and sad.
One hot summer day , the man
returned and the tree was delighted.
" Come and play with me!” the tree
said. “I am getting old. I want to go
sailing to relax myself. Can you
give me a boat?” said the man. "Use
my trunk to build your boat. You
can sail far away and be
happy .” So the man cut the tree trunk
to make a boat. He went sailing and
never showed up for a long time.
Finally , the man returned after many
years. " Sorry , my boy . But I do not
have anything for you anymore .
No more apples for you …” the tree
said. " No problem , I do not have
any teeth to bite" the man
replied. " No more trunk for you to
climb on ” “I am too old for that
now ” the man said. " I really cannot
give you anything ... the only thing
left is my dying roots ” the tree said
with tears. " I do not need much
now , just a place to rest . I am
tired after all these years ” the man
replied. "Good ! Old tree roots are
the best place to lean on and rest ,
Come, come sit down with me and
rest .” The man sat down and the tree
was glad and smiled with tears…
This is a story of
everyone .
The tree is like our
parents
When we
were young ,
we loved to
play with our
Mum and
Dad ...
When we grow up, we
leave them… only come to
them when we need something or
when we are in trouble .
No matter what,
parents will always be there and
give everything they could
just to make you happy .
You may think the boy is cruel to the
tree , but that is how all of us treat our
parents.
We take them for granted we don' t
appreciate all they do 4 us, UNTIL it ' s
Too late.

And your Lord has ordained that you do not worship anyone except Him,and treat your parents with kindness; if either of them or both reach old age in your presence, do not say "Uff"* to them and do not rebuff them, and speak to them with the utmost respect.And lower your wing humbly for them, with mercy, and pray, "My Lord! Have mercy on them both, the way they nursed me when I was young." (17:23-24